Is a groom as gharjamai acceptable??

Is the culture of gharjamai fading these days, are Indians becoming more stigmatic about accepting their son- in – laws as house husbands, or its becoming a prestige issue for the Indian brides to have house husbands. This suddenly came to my mind, when one of my friends mentioned his wish of becoming gharjamai after marriage, the desire, which made all of go in great shock. Though he was kidding, but it made my mind to discuss this issue with you all, I mean how a guy in today’s time could want to spend his life over the support of his in- laws. The age, when everyone is the ruler of his life, why would someone want to lead his life, according to others wishes.

This is surely a topic, which highly depends on the thinking, the family background and the future plans of a person. A practise of house- husbands, or gharjamai, was followed in the earlier times, in rich and royal families, where the family used to have their girl as the only child and they did not have any successor to carry their name forward. In such cases, they used to request their son- in- law, to come and live in their house and work for their family business. But now- a- days, it has become a prestige issue for the groom to go and live in the house of the bride. Though, this practise is still prevalent in the some of the villages of the country.

In fact, many Indian grooms these days, out of generosity, offer a helping hand to the bride’s family, if her mother or father is a widower, and the bride is their only daughter. This is also because of the brides contributing equally towards earning the living for the family. So, I think it’s not totally bad for the groom to go and live with his in- laws family, till the time, he is also making equal efforts to run the house and make each person live happily. Otherwise, being totally dependent on the bride’s family, is surely unacceptable, and should not even be promoted by the bride and her family, because in any case, the groom has to realise his responsibilities towards his own kin and family.