Monday, June 27, 2011

Joint Families and Marriages in India

Times have changed and so have our thinking! No more people prefer marrying their children in join families. To be honest, we think joint families invite more problems and leads to family issues. Apart from our life partner, his family and relatives also play an important role in shaping a healthy environment for marriage. Most of the married women today are independent and fall under the category of working women. This new work culture demands personal space at home for women. But, our Indian families are still moving on those pre- conceived notion that women in which ever situation are made to serve their family. No doubt, being a daughter-in-law of a family you are responsible for the well being of your family. But at the same time, family is also supposed to respect your privacy and give space to your personal life.


There are a number of situations which demand consistency in terms of support and care to the family. But a person can’t keep on showering these things, without getting any returns. Same is the case with the bride of the family, who expects same amount of love and care from her family. Joint families are known to be formed with an atmosphere full of household chores. But, in case where the bride is working it gets difficult for her to manage home and work. Especially, when the parents in-law, expects the bride to invest all her free time in the family and take care of their smallest needs.


The concept of a joint family has been successful in the past, with people more concerned about each others well being. Same can be successful today also, if we start valuing each others priorities and try and understand them. Therefore, these preconceived notions about joint families need to be changed, only then there would be happier and healthy marriage in India.

Tuesday, June 21, 2011

Finding Your Love through Net


Online matchmaking services
Internet has become the basic source of connectivity these days. We all are highly dependent on internet as a medium for our smallest of the activities. From emailing to calling or for searching information, internet is the first thing which comes to our mind. It is apparently the fastest mode, which has made our lives superfast. Virtual interactions, web- conferences, chat rooms have taken the place of social gatherings and gossiping sessions at friend’s place. Interacting with people at social networking sites, making new friends over net has become the most popular trend these days. If you do not have an account in social networking sites like Facebook, then you are considered outdated. Same is the case with marriages today. With the commencement of marriage website, finding your life partner using online services has become a fashion these days.

Marriage is a decision for lifetime and needs to be taken after proper background research of your would-be life partner. Especially, in case of internet, you need to make sure that the information provided by the person over net is true. Like we say, everything has its pros and cons; same is the case with forming relationships through internet. Trust is the most important factor, which is at stake in case of online marriage. Therefore, you must verify the whereabouts of your life partner from different other sources.

Though, today internet is believed to be the best source to interact with people across the world, but it has also reduced the time we used to spend with our loved ones. Therefore we can say that love through net is not a bad idea in this fast moving world, but while carving this love tale, you need to take every step very carefully. Also, conviction, trust and confidence are the milestones if achieved in any relation, leads to strengthening of the bond and same is must for married life.

Wednesday, June 15, 2011

Talk Before You Walk Out !

Doubting - The Dangerous Bug
It is a popular saying; it takes ages to build a relation, whereas it is a matter of few minutes to break it. Relationships are very delicate; they need to be nurtured with utmost care and importance. Especially, marriage is the purest and the most sacred bond, which we form in our life. Therefore, best of the efforts need to be made to make the marriage bond stronger and unbreakable. There are a number of situations, where you feel insecure about your marriage bond and are suspicious about its firmness. In such situations, you must talk directly to your life partner and make every doubt clear. Running away from the situation and whiling away time, does not help. It only adds tension and confusion to the situation and the relation.

The simplest of the solutions to any problem is to talk about it. Dragging the matter and thinking over it too much, won’t help, unless you discuss the same with your life partner. He might even do not have a hint about what has been going in your mind and reason behind your indifferent behaviour. Therefore, going to him and talking clearly about every situation or problem, would help you best to get over it.

Doubting are said to be the most dangerous bug, which can spoil your relation from the core. On the contrary, you should approach your life partner with all the confidence and simply solve the matter. Ignoring him or just being rude, would only add complications to your marriage. Therefore, by being soft and humble you should communicate your problems to your partner. Also, it should not be done in a way that he feels offended, because at the end if he is not wrong, then it can add a void to your relation.

Friday, June 10, 2011

Love Marriage - An Easy Way to a Happy Married Life

Love Marriage
Marriage is the most important decision we are made to take in life. There are hundreds of things we need to consider, before finalizing the decision and see that every things works out. Though, the mind set of people in India is changing and they are accepting love marriages, but still there are a large number of families who are against love marriage. In such cases, the couple need to make hard efforts to convince their parents and to make them approve the marriage. The parents should understand that ultimately, the couple has to spend their life together; they need to be friends with each other. This brings an ease in their married life and they can spend their future comfortably together.

Marrying the person you know well makes it easy for you to settle in future. Achieving the comfort level in a relationship takes a lot of time, which is already there in case of love marriages. The best part in a love marriage is that you are already friends with him/ her but often parents do not agree to the match their children choose for themselves.

Therefore, the most important step is to convince your parents about the marriage. For accomplishing this step, you need to be very sure about what you are doing. When you are confirm about your decision, and then only you can convince others about it. In case, you wish to get married to the boy or girl from another caste or religion, be sure that you both will be able to work it out well post marriage. Though, younger generations are more open to the idea, those following traditions tend to be a little sceptical about it. Explain your dear ones that it is the individual who matters and not the religion or caste.