Joint Families and Marriages in India

Times have changed and so have our thinking! No more people prefer marrying their children in join families. To be honest, we think joint families invite more problems and leads to family issues. Apart from our life partner, his family and relatives also play an important role in shaping a healthy environment for marriage. Most of the married women today are independent and fall under the category of working women. This new work culture demands personal space at home for women. But, our Indian families are still moving on those pre- conceived notion that women in which ever situation are made to serve their family. No doubt, being a daughter-in-law of a family you are responsible for the well being of your family. But at the same time, family is also supposed to respect your privacy and give space to your personal life.

There are a number of situations which demand consistency in terms of support and care to the family. But a person can’t keep on showering these things, without getting any returns. Same is the case with the bride of the family, who expects same amount of love and care from her family. Joint families are known to be formed with an atmosphere full of household chores. But, in case where the bride is working it gets difficult for her to manage home and work. Especially, when the parents in-law, expects the bride to invest all her free time in the family and take care of their smallest needs.

The concept of a joint family has been successful in the past, with people more concerned about each others well being. Same can be successful today also, if we start valuing each others priorities and try and understand them. Therefore, these preconceived notions about joint families need to be changed, only then there would be happier and healthy marriage in India.

Steps to Make your Arranged Marriage Successful

Arranged Marriages

Arranged marriages, is the primary concept about marriage, with which we Indians are nurtured. As children, we are always brought up with the belief that when we grow older, our parents search a life partner for us, with whom we are supposed to marry. The concept of arranged marriage is not at all wrong; it is a practice, which has been followed by Indians, since ages. Also, marriages groomed with Indian traditions are the most successful and the long lived matrimony bonds. But, now the ideologies are changing with the concept of love marriage is coming into practice. But, still a significant number of marriages bonds tied in India are arranged and a bride and groom need to be well prepared to accept a stranger as his life partner.

Efforts need to be made from both the sides, to make the marriage bond a success. Following are the steps, which you must follow, to keep your arranged marriage on a healthy and a happy track:

• First of all, every relationship demands comfort. You need to bring your relationship to a level which is friendly and wherein you can share every little thing with your partner. This comfort brings you closer to your spouse.
• When you get to know a person, then you start taking care of his small- small things, which develops the emotions of care and understanding in the relation. Caring for the smallest of the needs of your life partner, adds strength to your wedding bond.
• Care and understanding gives birth to the feeling of love in each others heart, which eventually gets stronger and results in intimacy in the relationship.
• In an arranged marriage, you should give time and space to your spouse, to understand each other and should not get hyper over small issues.
• You should remember, talking helps, therefore, if you have some doubts or problems, then please clear with your life partner, then and there.

All these steps may vary according to situations and how well you know the person. But the crux of every relation lies in the understanding you share and your willingness to groom the bond with love.

The first gift…

Marriage is the sweetest gift, given by the god to two human beings for their life time. Every human being, whether it’s you or me, everyone is very excited about each and every thing related to marriage. It’s a function, which involves a number of people, whose happiness and joyous moments are related to the closeness in the relation, they share with the bride or the groom. There are lot of things, combining which forms the reasons due to which the bride and the groom can live a cherished and a smooth married life. The very first meeting of the bride and the groom, just after their marriage gets fixed is a very precious one. There are a number of questions, which both of them have in their minds which are directly or indirectly related to expectations.

The biggest curiosity, which keeps the mind of the bride and the groom busy, is the first gift; they would get from their fiancée. There is a lot of excitement and pleasure attached to the gift, the expectations and their fulfilment, which both of them uses to greet each other. Whether it is the bride or the groom, both goes through a lot of mind boggling sessions, which makes them, decide what to choose and what not as the gift. The gift makes them form the first impression on their fiancée, which he or she carries through out the life. Therefore, the selection of the gift has to be the best and needs to match the personality of the bride or the groom.

The gift should also be the mirror image of the feelings, which the person has towards his fiancée, which helps in forming the base of their relation. so, whatever you choose as the first gift, needs to be very special and unique, and should in every way suit the personality of your would- be life partner.

Love is in the air!

Mere sapno ki rani kab ayegi tu ……!!Exactly this is the song, which every bachelor can be seen singing today. Love is in the air and so are the marriages. Marriage is the ultimate stamp, which gives certification to the love and the bond shared between couples. It has become so much important these days, to know a person before marrying him. We just cannot risk our entire lives, with a person, whom we do not even know. Understanding and compatibility being the prime reasons and many more has given rise to the sudden increase in the number of love marriages happening in the country these days.

But to love, you need to find some one, who is compatible, understanding, caring, loving, charming and much more. And same are the traits required to marry some one and to be able to spend your entire life with the same person. Its not that we will search and we will find, whom we can love or not, it’s something, which just happens. Its very well known and rightly said, love is blind; we tend to see only the positives, when we start liking someone. But a number of factors are required to be kept in mind, because he/ she is going to be your future husband or wife. You are not looking at his negatives now, but don’t let the situation turn so bad that after marriage, you get to see only negatives in him. Don’t let your self fall into the pit; remember that you are choosing a person for your whole life.

I known love relations cannot be formed in the basis of calculations, but you really need to be cautious, in choosing your life partner. Because, as in earlier days, you used to evaluate a person in just five minutes before marriage, same is the case here, with the big difference, that the time provided is unlimited. So give all the time available in the world and then make your marriage as the best decision of your life.

Till then enjoy the rainy season with your loved ones!

Finding the right person for marriage

Marriage is a phrase, which all of us gets introduces to in our life time. The moment, we turn 23- 24 years, our parents starts pondering our lives, with the marriage proposals. Everywhere we go, our relatives, uncles, aunties, keep pinching us with the choices for marriage and different talks about marriage. Obviously one gets irritated out of it. But at the end, we have to get married, right? Well if you have already chosen your life partner, I mean you are going for the love marriage, then it’s not that tough. But the main difficulty comes in the arrange marriages, where you have parental pressure, plus time constraint, which makes you go hay way. The decision of marriage is the one, on which our whole life is dependent. Therefore, it is very important, that a proper research is done before choosing the person for marriage.

You obviously don’t have enough time, because giving verdict to the bride or groom’s party is also important, in the given time period. But, taking the right decision in the time available is the toughest thing to work on. In that small time only, you need to make the biggest decision of your life. A lot of research and enquiry should be made, before the bond of marriage gets finalised. Also, you should try and spend some quality time with the prospective bride or groom. Knowing the compatibility ratio and character traits of the person is very important. Though, the same cannot be achieved in such a small period, but at least you should have that analysing power, to judge the person’s personality according to his attitude and behaviour in the respective time.

Marriage is actually the biggest decision of life, so please don’t take it lamely and go through a proper research before giving your final verdict!