Steps to Make your Arranged Marriage Successful

Arranged Marriages

Arranged marriages, is the primary concept about marriage, with which we Indians are nurtured. As children, we are always brought up with the belief that when we grow older, our parents search a life partner for us, with whom we are supposed to marry. The concept of arranged marriage is not at all wrong; it is a practice, which has been followed by Indians, since ages. Also, marriages groomed with Indian traditions are the most successful and the long lived matrimony bonds. But, now the ideologies are changing with the concept of love marriage is coming into practice. But, still a significant number of marriages bonds tied in India are arranged and a bride and groom need to be well prepared to accept a stranger as his life partner.

Efforts need to be made from both the sides, to make the marriage bond a success. Following are the steps, which you must follow, to keep your arranged marriage on a healthy and a happy track:

• First of all, every relationship demands comfort. You need to bring your relationship to a level which is friendly and wherein you can share every little thing with your partner. This comfort brings you closer to your spouse.
• When you get to know a person, then you start taking care of his small- small things, which develops the emotions of care and understanding in the relation. Caring for the smallest of the needs of your life partner, adds strength to your wedding bond.
• Care and understanding gives birth to the feeling of love in each others heart, which eventually gets stronger and results in intimacy in the relationship.
• In an arranged marriage, you should give time and space to your spouse, to understand each other and should not get hyper over small issues.
• You should remember, talking helps, therefore, if you have some doubts or problems, then please clear with your life partner, then and there.

All these steps may vary according to situations and how well you know the person. But the crux of every relation lies in the understanding you share and your willingness to groom the bond with love.

Adequate Space in a Relationship Grooms the Wedding Bond

Relationship

A person tends to meet and greet a number of people in his lifetime; there are only few of them, which become a life time part of his life. With this, a human being makes innumerable relations in his life, each of which has its own importance. Therefore, it gets really tough for him to make a balance between all. One of the most important relationships, which a person forms in his life, is the bond of marriage. Though the wedding bond is strongest of all, it is also said to be the most crucial bond. The husband and the wife need to make sure that they stand true on each others expectations. Love, care, hope, positive attitude, care, trusts are few of the factors, which defines the strength of a relationship. But, one of the most important factors, which help the bride and groom lead their life without any tensions is adequate space in a relation.

Space in a relation, does not refer to the physical intimacy or something like that, but it means the trust and the confidence the spouses have on each other by which they let each other enjoy their personal space in life. Marriage as a bond is must to have this space, which allows the bride and groom to have freedom for self- development. It’s true, that after marriage, sharing of personal space is what brings the bride and groom closer. But, the independence is also very important to develop the trust and understanding between the couple.

Possessiveness is required in a relation, to show concern to the life partner, but extreme possessiveness can add bitterness to the bond. If a relationship lacks space and the either of the bride or groom is highly possessive about the other, then it can lead to following problems:

1. Frustration: Excess of diplomacy in the relation, leads to irritation in the life of a couple. It is very natural, that a person would get frustrated if he is bounded in between few people for long.
2. A person also loses his personal space and the friends he have, because of the constant interrogation of his life partner. The possessiveness leads to break off from other friends and social circle.
3. Attention and time devotion is very important for the marriage bond, but spending valuable time with friends and family members is significant for the personal growth of the person.
4. Fights and bitterness: Space allows the person to grow individually and give a thought to his deeds. If either the husband or the wife is constantly controlled by the thoughts of other, then he loses his self control, which leads to fights.
5. Lots of restrictions, forces the entry of lies and doubts in the relationship. If the bride and groom are getting their reasonable space in life, then they would willingly and happily share all the instances of their life with each other.

Therefore, to avoid all the above mentioned complexities in the married life, the bride and groom should not at all be dominating in their relationship. Both the partners should get their reasonable space to let their thoughts breathe. This would not only let them move smoothly in their life, but also add fun to their marriage. Hanging out with large groups and friends, keeps the element of chirpiness and enjoyment alive in the marriage and couple gets more things to talk about. Having common friends makes it easier for the bride and grooms to gel with each other. Respecting each others differences in likings and qualities enables the bride and groom to understand each other better and value the effort involved.