Wedding Traditions in the Progressing Jatav Community

Marriages in India are still fixed by the parents who find a suitable life partner for their child. The considerable points to fix a wedding are caste, sub-caste, job, education, property, geographical origin, skin color, and family background. To find a suitable match, the matrimonial ads keep a big importance. The ads help to find the best matches as per the requirements and the keyword used to search the bridegroom

Generally, the date and time of the ceremony are set after consultation with the pundits and horoscopes. But all the young people do not accept this situation. The youngsters in all the communities, even in Jatav matrimony, have become progressive and are approaching for inter-caste or love marriage. Education and the influence of the west have led to creation of a contemporary society, which is good in itself.

However, if the parents approve the alliance, the wedding is performed with all enthusiasm, and all the rituals are followed as followed by the ancestors. Celebrations in the Jatav Matrimonial are generally based on the Hindu rituals, some changes may be observed based on the state where the bride and groom belong to. Many of the Jatavs have adopted the Buddhism, learnt their ideologies, and are following the preaching of Lord Buddha.

No matter which preaching one follows, the spirit with which the marriages in India are celebrated is the most important. The wedding ceremonies in Jatav matrimony are performed with all the precision and sacredness. Time has changed and now the most important task is to change the mindset of the people. Many people still consider Jatav as untouchables, as they are the sub-tribes of Chamars, who are involved in the leatherwork since ages. However, the awareness has increased and the youngsters are employed, which has thus led to decreasing poverty.

Author: Rashmi Karan

Lovable fights can add fun to your married life

Marriage is a very sweet bond, which gains its strength with time. It is very important for you and your life partner to give time and space to each other, so that to have a well maintained married life. Marriage is the bond, which needs a lot of care and time to come at a stage, where both, you and your life partner understand each other very well and have no scope for doubts and misunderstandings. There are fights and misunderstandings in every relation, but sometimes, small fights between the couple can add fun to the married life. It actually adds cherishable moments in your journey of married life.

It is also said, the more you fight with your life partner, you are bound to form stronger bond with him. So, there is no harm in having small tiffs with your partner, because in a way, it gives an opportunity to know his highs and lows. This also gives you a clarity on the relationship you share with your partner, and where are you lacking behind. It is very important to fill the gaps, between husband and wife, to give a smooth shape to their married life. In fact, if there are problems in your married life, then its better to talk about that and just way off the issues from your precious bond.

Having a small fight with your partner, and by not talking to him for one or two days, actually makes both of you realise the importance of each other. Getting apart for a small time period increases the urge of being together and reinforces all the feelings of love and care in both the bride and groom. So, next time, if you have a fight with your love, then first of all don’t let it drag for long, and make the best use of it and try and understand, where did you lack behind and what made you to have an argument with your life partner. Always try and learn from your mistakes and you must keep it in mind that you must not repeat those mistakes, which would annoy your life partner.

Intimacy shared in the courtship period makes a marriage bond strong

Marriages in India, from ages has been following the trends of arrange marriages, due to which marriage in a way is also called as one of the biggest risks, which we take in our lives. Though the concept of love marriages has brought a lot much change in way marriages are looked at in India. Today, we as youngsters are more free and optimistic in choosing our life partner, compared to our parents or grandparents. Our life moves the way want and we have the liberty to choose and fall in love with the person, of our preference. In case of love marriage, it’s very easy for the bride and groom to adjust after marriage, because they know each other very well and have already formed the bond of understanding. 

But in case of arranged marriages, it’s only the courtship period, which the bride and groom get to know each other before marriage. Though, after marriage, there is whole life to understand each other, but the excitement and the thrill, which prevails before marriage, is inexplicable. Its beyond explanation, I have experienced this, as one of my friends is going through this stage and he is always on the 9th cloud. His happiness and enthusiasm can be seen in his eyes and the way he talks. He is having an arranged marriage, but the period he is going through, his courtship period, is helping him getting close to his fiancée and now it seems no less than a love marriage. 

It is so strange, that in such a short period of time, they have got so close. I think, such is the power of love, which is experienced in the courtship period by the couple tying the knot of arranged marriage. The intimacy developed at the courtship period, gives birth to the feeling of love, which the bride and groom cherishes all long in their married life. 

Marriage decision

Everybody, whether it’s you or me, have been fanaticising about our marriage from our childhood. It is the biggest and the most talked about matter in the Indian families. As soon as the girl or the boy in an Indian house, reaches the eligible age of marriage, all over in his family and among his family members a wave of excitement and inquisitiveness runs, as in when is the girl or the boy will get married. It is actually a very weird feeling, you don’t know, to be happy or sad. You are obviously happy, as a whole new phase of life is waiting for you to get started. But, at the same time, a fear runs through the mind, how would the life partner would be like and whether you would be able to adjust with hum or not.

There is someone special for each one of us and it is pure fate, when and how we get paired with them for the life time. On the contrary, you should not leave everything on fate, but should be extra cautious while choosing the bride or groom for yourself. It is the biggest decision of life, so should be taken very carefully and with a proper analysis of each and every factor involved. I know relations like marriage and love are based on emotions, but at some stages you actually need to imply your mind, so that you take a wise decision and do not end up ruining your life with the wrong person.

Therefore, one should never match the speed of shatabadi, while taking the decision of marriage and should always finalise the life partner, after doing a proper research and checking if he/ she suits and compliments your personality. Love obviously cannot be calculated in a calculator, but the marriage decision, has to be very wise, because it embraces the peace and happiness of your whole life.

Weddings in Culturally Rich India

Indian weddings are probably the most elaborate and flamboyant weddings in the world. Our culturally diverse country represents many religions each with its different customs and beliefs. The wedding rituals and celebrations too are varied with multiplicity in traditions and communities.

The elaborate proceedings in Indian weddings convey togetherness in times of happiness and celebrations. The motto of such lengthy festivities is that all the relatives and guests should fully enjoy the unison of the couple. The dancing in the streets and the lighting of fire crackers during baraat procession for hours shows the pure joy that well wishers take in participating in the wedding.

The extensive decoration of marriage halls; the skillful packing and presentation of gifts; the fortune costing bridal costumes and make up and other such things emphasize on the grandeur associated with wedding in India. Marriage brings together two individuals in a sacred relation and so, it is performed in full fervor and ardent vigor. Month long preparations are made to rejoice the lifetime occasion even as feasting lasts for a week or more. Huge importance is attached with customs as they are age old and believed to be created by our elders for good.

Sometimes, so many customs and rituals make it cumbersome to arrange a wedding but this is what makes Indian weddings stand class apart. It takes face of a shopping festival with a million things to buy and make good arrangements that are liked and appreciated by the guests. A cherished wedding is one where the bride and the groom are blessed by all for a prosperous life in a divine environment under perfect settings. The culturally imbued ritualistic marriages are believed to last forever since God becomes the ultimate witness while endowing the couple with blessings.

Finding the right person for marriage

Marriage is a phrase, which all of us gets introduces to in our life time. The moment, we turn 23- 24 years, our parents starts pondering our lives, with the marriage proposals. Everywhere we go, our relatives, uncles, aunties, keep pinching us with the choices for marriage and different talks about marriage. Obviously one gets irritated out of it. But at the end, we have to get married, right? Well if you have already chosen your life partner, I mean you are going for the love marriage, then it’s not that tough. But the main difficulty comes in the arrange marriages, where you have parental pressure, plus time constraint, which makes you go hay way. The decision of marriage is the one, on which our whole life is dependent. Therefore, it is very important, that a proper research is done before choosing the person for marriage.

You obviously don’t have enough time, because giving verdict to the bride or groom’s party is also important, in the given time period. But, taking the right decision in the time available is the toughest thing to work on. In that small time only, you need to make the biggest decision of your life. A lot of research and enquiry should be made, before the bond of marriage gets finalised. Also, you should try and spend some quality time with the prospective bride or groom. Knowing the compatibility ratio and character traits of the person is very important. Though, the same cannot be achieved in such a small period, but at least you should have that analysing power, to judge the person’s personality according to his attitude and behaviour in the respective time.

Marriage is actually the biggest decision of life, so please don’t take it lamely and go through a proper research before giving your final verdict!

Marriage Anniversary

Marriage anniversary is the day, when the bride and groom get to rejoice their day of marriage and the moments spent on the auspicious day. Though, I am not married, but I can surely say by seeing my parents that marriage is the most precious bond, one gets to tie in his life and that also for the lifetime. The bond which is made by God, but it is purely in the hands of the bride and the groom, that how well they sustain and maintain the elements of love and understanding in their relationship. Love, trust and understanding are the basic elements, which are needed to be instilled by both the bride and groom, in their married life; to make it more strong and long lived.

Marriage anniversary is a day, which is the proof of the strength of their married life, because if and only if the bride and the groom have been able to build the bond of trust between each other then only, their relation can be long lived. The more time in terms of years you tend to spend with your life partner, the better bond is said to be developed between both of you. Have you ever wondered why couples celebrate their 25th marriage anniversary, that too at such a large scale? This is because of the fact that they are not only proud of their long lived relation, but also they are so happy that they want to share this happiness with everyone around. Also, couples like these have set examples for the new generation, for whom, marriage is no longer a serious relation. They have been beaten by the bug of divorce, which gives them an easy way out, if they are not happy or satisfied with their married life. So it totally depends on you and your life partner as in how much understanding you share with your life partner, which would give fuel to your marriage journey and you will be able to celebrate more number of marriage anniversaries with your life partner!!

Marriages : Made in Heaven, Celebrated on Earth

Everyone believes in existence of a superpower above us and some name it as GOD. God has made a soul mate for everybody and brings them together through the eternal bond called marriage. These marriages are celebrated luxuriously and elaborately on earth, especially in Indian customs.

Marriages lead to physical, mental and spiritual unison of a couple. A successful marriage demands love, understanding, mutual respect, trust, commitment and togetherness of a couple. Marriage is considered to be a very sacred relation that unites two individuals from different walks of life. The relationship of a man and woman is incomparable to any other relation that they share throughout their lives.

Marriages are, definitely, made in heaven else how do you think that two people with different upbringing and different opinions are bonded together. What is the force that unites only those two people as a couple and not with some one else. Most of us believe that it is destiny that makes you meet all the people in your life and so is the same with life partners. Destiny is written by God or at least directed by that superpower that operates above all of us.

He decides in advance whom to bring together to be tied in the bond of lifelong commitment and unison. And then, this matrimony is arranged and solemnized with pomp and grandeur to let the world meet your better half. In fact, this is why, marriages in India are performed royally and people spend most of their savings on the wedding. Such grand weddings are dream-like where the bride and the groom are the only center of attraction for all the guests and relatives.

Every girl, even today after such modernization, dreams of getting married in a fairy tale kind of a way. And then, why not, this is the most memorable moment in a person’s life.

Changing your name after marriage

Marriage is the most important decision of our life. It is the decision, which not only changes the whole lifestyle of a human being, but it also leads to the change in identity of a bride. There are hardly any changes, which a guy goes through after marriage, other than the responsibilities, he takes of his family. But, if we talk about the bride, there are loads of changes and modifications that a bride has to adopt to lead a hassle-free life. The first and the foremost step towards change is shifting of her home, from her maternal house to the house of her in- laws, which is still ok, but the next thing, which any girl is most resistant to is the change of her name.

The change in the surname, is a common practise, which has been followed since ages in Indian marriages, but with the changing times and the girls becoming more independent and adopting modern ways to lead her life, she is not ready to accept the change in her name. According to the girls these days, how can they change their identity or the name, with which they have lived for so many years? And plus adding the whole name of your husband to yours becomes too lengthy and difficult to pronounce. In fact some girls these days, are too conscious that they just don’t change their name at all, not even their surname. Some brides add their in- law’s surname at the end of their original full name to mark their alliance with the new family, which I think is the best way.

These things are very debatable and have even lead to some family disputes, but at the end it depends on the mutual understanding of the bride and the groom. The mental set- up and the thinking of the groom and his family plays a very important role here, because if the family is very strict and blindly follows all the old rituals and customs, then the bride in any case would have to bear the full additional changes to her name, but if the groom or the family understand her emotions, then they would surely support in keeping her original name as it is with an add-on of their family name, forever. And if you are among few of the latter cases, then I must say, are the blessed one, because in such a modern society even, you would find very less families, who understands the attachment and the emotions that a bride has for her name and family.