Flatter Your Soul Mate with Special Gifts

Eternal love is away from all the materialistic wants in life. Love is life for many and for few others it is the way to make life easier to live. It depends on you how you take it and how you want your love life to go further. Love is the basis of married life not only in Indian weddings, but across the world. Also, it is the power which motivates you to move ahead in life. Support from your life partner is very important to keep your marriage cart rolling in the prospective direction. Though, love and married life is not dependent on the gifts and the material benefits you gain from each other. But, still receiving a gift from your spouse, just like that, refreshes the feeling of love you both share. Women in Indian marriages are mostly tagged as home makers, who spend their entire life taking care of her family members. Therefore little care and concern is must for her.

Being a husband, you are ought to take care of even the smallest need of your wife. Gifting her stuffs and making her feel good about your relation are few things, which add special moments to your marriage journey.

Following are few of the steps you can follow to flatter your spouse:

• Say her, ‘I Love You’. It’s the best gift you can gift him/ her at any point of time.
• If your wife is a home maker, you can gift her love stories, to add more romance and liveliness to your married life
• Take her out for dinner or a movie. Plan a special day for her. It’s not necessary that you would wait for a special occasion to come; you can create a special day yourself. Blend creativity and surprises and present it with love, she would surely love it.

Gifts like jewels, clothes, accessories can be bought by anyone, but your special someone should be treated like an angel giving all the due important she deserves. There are many online matrimony sites, which helps you with more ideas to flatter your spouse and add happiness to both of your lives.

Small - Small Steps Lead to Big Changes in Married Life

Happy Married Life

Life is full of surprises and at every step we are made to face new challenges. These challenges judge our potential and increase our strength to face them. One of the most important and life changing step, we take in our life, is when we get married. Marriages in India are said to be the most sacred bond, which once tied is supposed to stay with the person for his lifetime. There are times in life, where we need to make choices and those are the choices, which result in further movement of the life. Therefore, it is said small steps of life, has the power to make big changes in our life. Like, small- small surprises to bring smiles on the faces of your life partner can add lifelong contentment to your relation.

Following are few of the small steps, which can add happiness to your married life:

• Greet your spouse every morning with a pleasant smile
• Take her out for a surprise dinner sometimes in weekdays also
• Buy a bunch of roses, while driving back home and gift it to her wrapped with your warmth and love
• Cook her favourite dish and surprise her with a nice ambience set for food at home itself
• Decorate the room with candles and flowers, and surprise him with a romantic ambience when he comes back home
• Gift your spouse his/ her favourite fragrance or watch, or an accessory he/ she has been wanting to buy from long
• Send flowers and a birthday cake to her office on her birthday and treat her with a surprise party with her friends

These small steps are sure to make your life partner happy and add a sweet flavour to your wedding bond.

Intimacy shared in the courtship period makes a marriage bond strong

Marriages in India, from ages has been following the trends of arrange marriages, due to which marriage in a way is also called as one of the biggest risks, which we take in our lives. Though the concept of love marriages has brought a lot much change in way marriages are looked at in India. Today, we as youngsters are more free and optimistic in choosing our life partner, compared to our parents or grandparents. Our life moves the way want and we have the liberty to choose and fall in love with the person, of our preference. In case of love marriage, it’s very easy for the bride and groom to adjust after marriage, because they know each other very well and have already formed the bond of understanding. 

But in case of arranged marriages, it’s only the courtship period, which the bride and groom get to know each other before marriage. Though, after marriage, there is whole life to understand each other, but the excitement and the thrill, which prevails before marriage, is inexplicable. Its beyond explanation, I have experienced this, as one of my friends is going through this stage and he is always on the 9th cloud. His happiness and enthusiasm can be seen in his eyes and the way he talks. He is having an arranged marriage, but the period he is going through, his courtship period, is helping him getting close to his fiancée and now it seems no less than a love marriage. 

It is so strange, that in such a short period of time, they have got so close. I think, such is the power of love, which is experienced in the courtship period by the couple tying the knot of arranged marriage. The intimacy developed at the courtship period, gives birth to the feeling of love, which the bride and groom cherishes all long in their married life. 

Nervousness before the first meeting for matchmaking

As we grow up, we get to be more mature, leaving behind all the childishness and bubbliness in our behaviour. It’s because, with time, we are required to take decisions, which are often for life time, and have the power to make or ruin our whole life. One such decision is choosing the right life partner for marriage. Marriages in India are always considered as the life time bond, which binds the bride and groom with each other for the rest of their lives. In case of love marriage, you know the highs and lows of the person and it’s a well sought and tested decision. But, in case of arranged marriages, the time from when the talks about the marriage start, the tensions and a ticklish feeling start arousing around us. The nervousness before meeting the prospective bride or groom is unexplainable and plus the sweet and sour flavours are added by the family members and the relatives.

This suddenly came to my mind, because one of my friends is going through this stage and I can feel what he is going through all these days. Every moment you have this thing in mind, what would you talk to her, how would she react, will she like me, what would happen, and a series of questions keeps on banging your head every moment. It’s something, which is beyond explanation and plus when you know, once said yes, cannot be brought back. This is really inexplicable and different, something which you would never have experienced before.

The only thing, which I think and would suggest to all my friends going through this stage, is be positive and have an optimistic approach in whatever you do. I know nothing much can be drawn out of those ten minutes discussion, but try and take the best use of those few minutes and transform them to the best minutes of your life. Because, whether you say yes or no, it has to be for your good. So be alert and cautious at every step. ‘Just be yourself’, is the mantra and remember by following this, you can win over any situation.

India accepting the concept of love marriages

Earlier whenever we use to hear the word marriage, it simply meant arranged marriages. No one could ever think of love marriages. In fact love marriage was considered a crime in our grandparent’s generation. But now- a- days marriage corresponds to only word i.e. Love marriage. Most of the marriages in India today are love marriages. Parents today have become more open towards the concept of love marriage and are welcoming the our choices as their daughter in law or son in law. They are more concerned about our happiness rather than their pride and the so called name of their kin. Earlier this was the major excuse given by the family members, when the children use to ask about love marriage. But now, the times have changed and parents have modernized their approach towards love marriage.

In fact in the last few days, most of the wedding ceremonies I have attended were the legalization of bond of love between bride and groom. It is somehow very important in the Indian society to have permission of the parents for marriage and also their blessings are always believed to be very important for the whole marriage journey of the couple. It is actually very good news for the youngsters these days, as no more we need to take extreme steps of running away from our house or to marry against the choice of our parents. But still there are few families who even today like to stick with their orthodox believes related to marriage. They still believe that inter- caste marriage is the biggest of the evil practices that a human being can perform.

A lot more needs to be done to enlighten and modify the thought process of our oldies in respect to marriage and its practices. But, I think, if this much has been achieved, then more reformations can surely be seen in the coming future, with no parents coming in between the love marriage of their children. Thus, making their life a happy and a cherished one.

Marriage Counseling a Must for Couples

Marriages in India are breaking up at an alarming rate and this is worrying everyone from parents to couples alike. The change in psyche on divorce has made it a casual affair as people are now seen flaunting their divorcee status.

Lifestyle problems, low tolerance levels, lack of communication, shortage of quality time, work frustration, etc. are some of the major problems that lead to breakup in a marriage. The trend is just the same in both arranged and love marriages as these problems can prevail between any two individuals living together.

An alarming 40 percent of the marriages, especially in metros are heading for breakups. This whopping figure makes it extremely important for couples to go through marriage counseling before tying the blissful knot. Though more number of couples have been coming forward to the idea of counseling, it is still not sufficient.

Marriage Counseling counsels the relationship of two people by putting in an effort to recognize and to manage better the possible troublesome differences between them. Couple therapy or marital therapy is based on core principles crucial to a marriage like respect, empathy, consent, accountability, trust, compatibility, love, care and others. Today’s intricate life of uncertainties and fluctuations make it difficult to remain stress-free and compromise with situations.

The tendency to overreact and restlessness is growing these days to lack of patience and fleeting speed of life. Everyone is looking for success and quick fun in a short period of time while the value and importance attached to relationships reduce continuously. In today’s world, one needs to take help from outside to maintain a relationship be it of any kind. But, we need to take out time from the hectic life; sit and relax and think about how we can keep our relationships steady and successful.

Peeping into the mind of the bride

No doubt, wedding day is the most amazing day in the lives of both bride and groom. But, for bride, it is the day filled with loads of emotions. I think a bride, goes through tons of emotions throughout the day, the major ones being the sadness and happiness. Tears seem to be like the best friends, they accompany not only bride, but even her family members all day during the marriage ceremonies. Even the rare moments, called the tears of happiness can also be witnessed during this occasion. Shades of the happy, sad, nervous, anxious, chilled, cool, surprise moments are experienced by the bride in a single day.

One of my friend, who got married recently, told me, that the day of the marriage seems like a long day, its not at all like a usual day, it seems like you live so many days and relations in that one day. Actually you get to know the meaning and sanctity of all relations on the day of your marriage. Actually I too believe that, the moments, when the maternal uncle, mother, father, grandparents, perform different rituals with the bride are speechless, they are times, which are priceless and a girl only, when in the form of a bride, gets to earn and practice those moments.

Each mantra or spiritual rhyme recited by the priest, takes the bride away from her parents and maternal family, leading her life towards new beginning with new family and new relatives. The most emotional and touching moment in the marriage, is when the girl leaves her maternal house and heads towards her new house with her husband. Though, the happiness and the majesticity of the feeling of a new life, full of happiness and joys is beyond description, but anyhow the feeling of leaving your family behind, and that this house will no longer be yours, certainly overpowers the happiness and makes you as a bride so feeble and full of tears. All these emotions are very personal and close to the heart of the bride, so the groom should always try and understand these emotions which a bride goes through at the time of their wedding, and should always support her, in starting a new life, filled with all the smiles and happy moments.

Sherlock Holmes Gets a New Task- Parents Skeptical About Prospective Matches Hire Detectives

The importance of marriages in India has been growing and gaining popularity in abroad as well. Marriage is a lifelong commitment between two individuals and is considered to be the most sacred relation in Hindu mythology.

The concept of marriage, now days, is facing an encounter with modernization. Television and Online Matrimonials are enough testimony to the evolving ways of getting married. They may facilitate or ease the process of finding the right match but also bring with them insecurities and uncertainties. Both parents and the individuals are always found concerned about the behavioral and characteristic traits of the potential match, guy or girl.

Since, one can never be sure of the habits and character of a person based on information from limited sources like relatives, neighbors, etc., why not hire a private detective? Yes, this is exactly what the Indian parents have been doing to make sure that the prospective son-in law or daughter-in-law is the perfect choice. In order to put the seal of surety and to confirm that they are not risking their child’s life by marrying him/ her off to that particular person, parents are hiring detectives.

The fact that matrimonial websites have comforted the process of finding good partners has been unanimously agreed to by parents. But, concerns have risen due to physical distance and absence of connection, thereby, encouraging them to hire services from an agency that can verify credentials of the match. While voicing their concerns, parents added that if they could spend lakhs of rupees on the wedding celebration, can’t they shell out a mere 1% to ensure lifelong happiness of their children.

The job of these detectives is to report about the prospective partner’s lifestyle, friend group, habits, etc. Investigation agencies agree to the spurt in their business as parents are increasingly hiring their services.