Love Marriage - An Easy Way to a Happy Married Life

Love Marriage

Marriage is the most important decision we are made to take in life. There are hundreds of things we need to consider, before finalizing the decision and see that every things works out. Though, the mind set of people in India is changing and they are accepting love marriages, but still there are a large number of families who are against love marriage. In such cases, the couple need to make hard efforts to convince their parents and to make them approve the marriage. The parents should understand that ultimately, the couple has to spend their life together; they need to be friends with each other. This brings an ease in their married life and they can spend their future comfortably together.

Marrying the person you know well makes it easy for you to settle in future. Achieving the comfort level in a relationship takes a lot of time, which is already there in case of love marriages. The best part in a love marriage is that you are already friends with him/ her but often parents do not agree to the match their children choose for themselves.

Therefore, the most important step is to convince your parents about the marriage. For accomplishing this step, you need to be very sure about what you are doing. When you are confirm about your decision, and then only you can convince others about it. In case, you wish to get married to the boy or girl from another caste or religion, be sure that you both will be able to work it out well post marriage. Though, younger generations are more open to the idea, those following traditions tend to be a little sceptical about it. Explain your dear ones that it is the individual who matters and not the religion or caste.

Intimacy shared in the courtship period makes a marriage bond strong

Marriages in India, from ages has been following the trends of arrange marriages, due to which marriage in a way is also called as one of the biggest risks, which we take in our lives. Though the concept of love marriages has brought a lot much change in way marriages are looked at in India. Today, we as youngsters are more free and optimistic in choosing our life partner, compared to our parents or grandparents. Our life moves the way want and we have the liberty to choose and fall in love with the person, of our preference. In case of love marriage, it’s very easy for the bride and groom to adjust after marriage, because they know each other very well and have already formed the bond of understanding. 

But in case of arranged marriages, it’s only the courtship period, which the bride and groom get to know each other before marriage. Though, after marriage, there is whole life to understand each other, but the excitement and the thrill, which prevails before marriage, is inexplicable. Its beyond explanation, I have experienced this, as one of my friends is going through this stage and he is always on the 9th cloud. His happiness and enthusiasm can be seen in his eyes and the way he talks. He is having an arranged marriage, but the period he is going through, his courtship period, is helping him getting close to his fiancée and now it seems no less than a love marriage. 

It is so strange, that in such a short period of time, they have got so close. I think, such is the power of love, which is experienced in the courtship period by the couple tying the knot of arranged marriage. The intimacy developed at the courtship period, gives birth to the feeling of love, which the bride and groom cherishes all long in their married life. 

Changing trend for marriageable age

There are many stages in life, which every person, whether it’s you or me, is bound to go through and handle it in a way that it turns out to be the best of the experiences. One of the phases in life, which is sure to change the whole definition of our life is the marriage. Marriages in India have always been given the priority and the search for the right match for marriage, starts as soon as we turn 25 or 26. Marriage in our grandparent days, were supposed to happen as soon as the child turns adult or even less. Then came the age, where parents didn’t use to think about our marriage, till the time we turn 25-26., though the age variation use to differ for boys and girls. But now days, the trend seems to be taking a u- turn and an early age marriage can be seen again.

The parents now- a-days, feel that as soon as their children starts earning a handsome income, he should be handled with the responsibility of marriage. In fact, with the love marriages slowly getting accepted in India, boys and girls themselves can be seen very excited about their marriage and want to settle down with their love in the right possible duration. This is also because of the maturation level achieved by the children these days, at a comparatively early age. The social and the professional life, brings a change in our total lifestyle and leads to the practise of dependency on others.  Also, there is an urge for a life partner to share all the problems and happiness with, for which the most promising solution seems to be marriage.

There is no harm in early marriage, i.e. after we get settled with our professional lives, but we should always keep this in mind, that marriage is a life long decision and should always be taken very carefully and with all the plus and minuses considered.  

Love is in the air!

Mere sapno ki rani kab ayegi tu ……!!Exactly this is the song, which every bachelor can be seen singing today. Love is in the air and so are the marriages. Marriage is the ultimate stamp, which gives certification to the love and the bond shared between couples. It has become so much important these days, to know a person before marrying him. We just cannot risk our entire lives, with a person, whom we do not even know. Understanding and compatibility being the prime reasons and many more has given rise to the sudden increase in the number of love marriages happening in the country these days.

But to love, you need to find some one, who is compatible, understanding, caring, loving, charming and much more. And same are the traits required to marry some one and to be able to spend your entire life with the same person. Its not that we will search and we will find, whom we can love or not, it’s something, which just happens. Its very well known and rightly said, love is blind; we tend to see only the positives, when we start liking someone. But a number of factors are required to be kept in mind, because he/ she is going to be your future husband or wife. You are not looking at his negatives now, but don’t let the situation turn so bad that after marriage, you get to see only negatives in him. Don’t let your self fall into the pit; remember that you are choosing a person for your whole life.

I known love relations cannot be formed in the basis of calculations, but you really need to be cautious, in choosing your life partner. Because, as in earlier days, you used to evaluate a person in just five minutes before marriage, same is the case here, with the big difference, that the time provided is unlimited. So give all the time available in the world and then make your marriage as the best decision of your life.

Till then enjoy the rainy season with your loved ones!

India accepting the concept of love marriages

Earlier whenever we use to hear the word marriage, it simply meant arranged marriages. No one could ever think of love marriages. In fact love marriage was considered a crime in our grandparent’s generation. But now- a- days marriage corresponds to only word i.e. Love marriage. Most of the marriages in India today are love marriages. Parents today have become more open towards the concept of love marriage and are welcoming the our choices as their daughter in law or son in law. They are more concerned about our happiness rather than their pride and the so called name of their kin. Earlier this was the major excuse given by the family members, when the children use to ask about love marriage. But now, the times have changed and parents have modernized their approach towards love marriage.

In fact in the last few days, most of the wedding ceremonies I have attended were the legalization of bond of love between bride and groom. It is somehow very important in the Indian society to have permission of the parents for marriage and also their blessings are always believed to be very important for the whole marriage journey of the couple. It is actually very good news for the youngsters these days, as no more we need to take extreme steps of running away from our house or to marry against the choice of our parents. But still there are few families who even today like to stick with their orthodox believes related to marriage. They still believe that inter- caste marriage is the biggest of the evil practices that a human being can perform.

A lot more needs to be done to enlighten and modify the thought process of our oldies in respect to marriage and its practices. But, I think, if this much has been achieved, then more reformations can surely be seen in the coming future, with no parents coming in between the love marriage of their children. Thus, making their life a happy and a cherished one.

Institution of Marriage is Demolishing in India

Indian matrimony has always been associated with words like eternity, lifelong, everlasting and forever. It is the most beautiful relation that completes a man and a woman as they spend all their lives together with each other. Though it is not so easy to establish a lasting relation, Indian couples have been hugely successful in doing so. The fact not only fascinates everyone but also encourages them to do the same.

As rosy it may sound, it has changed in today’s times being no more an incorrigible relation. It can now be easily influenced by even the most insignificant and trivial of the issues like incompatibility, lack of cleanliness, bringing work home, lack of time, watching television, communication gap and so on. With women becoming fully aware of their rights and demanding equality, marital tensions are mounting up as males are not able to handle this empowerment. Adultery, extra-marital affairs, ego clashes, suspicion and lack of faith are constantly becoming reasons for the increasing number of marriage break ups.

It is interesting to note as figures reveal that chances of break up in love marriages are higher than in arranged marriages. The records state that at least 50% love marriages and 30% arranged marriages in India end up in divorce. Breaking marriages is not unheard of anymore as rising numbers of couples are opting for separation these days. Out of 1,36,000 marriages solemnized in Delhi in 2009, 10,000 ended up in divorce courts. Like ‘every coin has two sides’, it is good that the couple does not have to suffer with each other forever if not compatible but such increasing figures are sure creating tensions and apprehensions.

The couples are forced to think twice before tying the knot as the sacred institution of marriage is seen crumbling.