Traditional Match Making is Passé

The traditional match making concept is gradually replacing with modern versions. Traditional ways of finding partners like with the help of family or friends is now passé. With online dating sites and matrimony sites offering free matchmaking services, matchmaking for contemporary youth is even more exciting.

Match Making

Traditionally, the village priest or elder of village or community fixed the match. The boy and girl had not much choice in this fixing of alliance. They cannot even object to the elder’s decision. There was minimum conversation between the boy and girl before the wedding. This kind of system was very common in Asian countries. It was popular in this region and was known as ‘the arranged marriage’.

With changes in mindset and education spreading its wings, the way of selecting life partner changed. Young people met strangers, talked and fell in love. The meeting usually happened in places like colleges or offices, where common friend or known person play the role of cupid. The friend here is the matchmaker. This became the commonest way of finding the life partner. Romancing, knowing the person well and then tying the knot became a new way of settling down. All this was common before the online craze.

With the Internet and online networking sites becoming the lifeblood of most, online match making is the newest way of finding that someone special. Online dating sites and matrimonial websites are the new official matchmakers. With most the world glued to the Internet, these sites are very popular among youth searching for that someone special. With the busy work schedules and limited time, these sites are the best way of finding your life partner. Best part of these matchmaking sites are they provide free membership and have a storehouse of millions of profiles. These sites keep your information safe and secure.

Author: Shipra Sinha

Some Decoration Ideas for Hindi Matrimony

The Hindi matrimony involves so many rituals that go on for a number of days, which involve gathering and lots of decorations. The wedding décor depends on the total budget and the theme of the wedding. Personally, I love the floral decoration most, especially the whites and pinks.

Colours: Bright red and golden colours can go with the traditional wedding parties in Hindi matrimony. You can drape the flowers in the bright red and golden ribbons and then decorate the walls with those. For the contemporary look, you can also choose bright greens, silver, shades of pinks, etc.

Lighting: For the ethnic look use lanterns and candles rather than electric lights. For better aesthetics, you can also make use of uniform lights that are not too bright and comfortable to eyes. Experimentation with different colours may spoil the look of the wedding venue, so go for traditional ways of lightening, but yes, ensure that there is enough light at the wedding areas so that you can have some bright photographs.

 Meals and dining tables: Your caterer can help to arrange the desired cutlery for the wedding. The items associated with the wedding can also be taken from the caterer only. The decoration of tables are also done by the caterers, you can ask them for further details.

Mandap: Another important section of the wedding venue, where the décor of the mandap is very important, as it is the place where all the rituals and customs of the Hindi matrimony are conducted. The backdrop of the wedding venue can be beautifully decorated with bright flowers like marigold, roses, jasmine, and others, paired with beautiful light effects. The furniture should also be matching to the decor. Silk curtains can be used to cover the pillars to give dramatic effects.

Author: Rashmi Karan

Wedding Trousseau for the Bridegroom

During weddings, every minute detail of the bridal’s trousseau is taken care of, while no one cares to look after the trousseau of the bridegroom. However, times have changed there is lots of stuff for the groom-to-be to select from. And not only this, guys are even more concerned about their looks like the girls do and want to look their best.

The bridegroom keep themselves coordinated with the theme of the wedding party, which includes his attire, accessories and the colour schema chosen for the special day.

For a formal wedding, the grooms can wear a tuxedo with a waistcoat, a party wear shirt, a gorgeous tie and not to miss, the cufflinks. The shoes must be sparkling. In various communities, black is forbidden during the wedding, which can be replaced with tan brown, dark brown, or other nude colours.

Pearl and diamond cufflinks are pretty popular these days among the bridegrooms. Every man likes to have a lovely pair of cufflinks included in his wedding wardrobe. A number of designs are available in the market, which can also be seen on the internet to have a wide range of ideas.

A perfect combination of waistcoats and ties is required to complement with the wedding theme and also have an impressive personality. It is always advisable to wear the waistcoats of the perfect fit, neither too tight nor too loose. Colours ranging between black to blue and grey look very stylish.

For the ethnic and traditional marriage, the bridegroom can choose sherwani in shades other than off white or cream, as these colours are too common since years. Blue, grey, purple, silver or even black are very popular these days, however, these need to be matched with the dress of the bride as well as the decoration theme.

Author: Rashmi Karan

Wedding Traditions in the Progressing Jatav Community

Marriages in India are still fixed by the parents who find a suitable life partner for their child. The considerable points to fix a wedding are caste, sub-caste, job, education, property, geographical origin, skin color, and family background. To find a suitable match, the matrimonial ads keep a big importance. The ads help to find the best matches as per the requirements and the keyword used to search the bridegroom

Generally, the date and time of the ceremony are set after consultation with the pundits and horoscopes. But all the young people do not accept this situation. The youngsters in all the communities, even in Jatav matrimony, have become progressive and are approaching for inter-caste or love marriage. Education and the influence of the west have led to creation of a contemporary society, which is good in itself.

However, if the parents approve the alliance, the wedding is performed with all enthusiasm, and all the rituals are followed as followed by the ancestors. Celebrations in the Jatav Matrimonial are generally based on the Hindu rituals, some changes may be observed based on the state where the bride and groom belong to. Many of the Jatavs have adopted the Buddhism, learnt their ideologies, and are following the preaching of Lord Buddha.

No matter which preaching one follows, the spirit with which the marriages in India are celebrated is the most important. The wedding ceremonies in Jatav matrimony are performed with all the precision and sacredness. Time has changed and now the most important task is to change the mindset of the people. Many people still consider Jatav as untouchables, as they are the sub-tribes of Chamars, who are involved in the leatherwork since ages. However, the awareness has increased and the youngsters are employed, which has thus led to decreasing poverty.

Author: Rashmi Karan