Talk Before You Walk Out !

Doubting - The Dangerous Bug

It is a popular saying; it takes ages to build a relation, whereas it is a matter of few minutes to break it. Relationships are very delicate; they need to be nurtured with utmost care and importance. Especially, marriage is the purest and the most sacred bond, which we form in our life. Therefore, best of the efforts need to be made to make the marriage bond stronger and unbreakable. There are a number of situations, where you feel insecure about your marriage bond and are suspicious about its firmness. In such situations, you must talk directly to your life partner and make every doubt clear. Running away from the situation and whiling away time, does not help. It only adds tension and confusion to the situation and the relation.

The simplest of the solutions to any problem is to talk about it. Dragging the matter and thinking over it too much, won’t help, unless you discuss the same with your life partner. He might even do not have a hint about what has been going in your mind and reason behind your indifferent behaviour. Therefore, going to him and talking clearly about every situation or problem, would help you best to get over it.

Doubting are said to be the most dangerous bug, which can spoil your relation from the core. On the contrary, you should approach your life partner with all the confidence and simply solve the matter. Ignoring him or just being rude, would only add complications to your marriage. Therefore, by being soft and humble you should communicate your problems to your partner. Also, it should not be done in a way that he feels offended, because at the end if he is not wrong, then it can add a void to your relation.

Small - Small Steps Lead to Big Changes in Married Life

Happy Married Life

Life is full of surprises and at every step we are made to face new challenges. These challenges judge our potential and increase our strength to face them. One of the most important and life changing step, we take in our life, is when we get married. Marriages in India are said to be the most sacred bond, which once tied is supposed to stay with the person for his lifetime. There are times in life, where we need to make choices and those are the choices, which result in further movement of the life. Therefore, it is said small steps of life, has the power to make big changes in our life. Like, small- small surprises to bring smiles on the faces of your life partner can add lifelong contentment to your relation.

Following are few of the small steps, which can add happiness to your married life:

• Greet your spouse every morning with a pleasant smile
• Take her out for a surprise dinner sometimes in weekdays also
• Buy a bunch of roses, while driving back home and gift it to her wrapped with your warmth and love
• Cook her favourite dish and surprise her with a nice ambience set for food at home itself
• Decorate the room with candles and flowers, and surprise him with a romantic ambience when he comes back home
• Gift your spouse his/ her favourite fragrance or watch, or an accessory he/ she has been wanting to buy from long
• Send flowers and a birthday cake to her office on her birthday and treat her with a surprise party with her friends

These small steps are sure to make your life partner happy and add a sweet flavour to your wedding bond.

Make your Life Partner Feel Special this Dating Season

Life Partner

What’s the plan for today? Let’s go out somewhere. Look at the weather outside, you cannot let the time pass like this! These are few of the dialogues; we get to hear when the god of monsoon showers its blessing on us. It’s not just friends; the weather brings a great opportunity for the couples, to scribe some amazing memories together. It is a well known fact, that weather has a great effect on our mood. A beautiful weather has the power to turn your romantic senses on and enjoy the feeling of love, which is out of this world.

The weather these days perfectly calls for a date and therefore can also be called as the dating weather. It’s not necessary that dating has to be between boyfriend and girlfriend; it can be between a husband and wife also. There are a number of occasions, where you treat your wife and make her feel special, but doing something just like that, just because you feel like, makes the whole effort extra special.

Married life with time is said to become monotonous with the passage of time, therefore little changes in the daily routine are mandatory for you as a couple. This helps you add colors of happiness and surprises in your life. Summers with the orangish tone spread across the sky, cool breeze making the trees swing and droplets of rain humming with the air, frames the perfect weather which can give a romantic change to your married life. This is the weather, which surely makes you sing songs like ’yeh mausam ka jadoo hai mitwa…’, and you must take your wife on an amazing date in such captivating climatic conditions.

Indian marriages are always based on the principle of longevity and keeping the factors of romance and surprises alive in the bond is the only way to make it keep moving flawlessly.

Lovable fights can add fun to your married life

Marriage is a very sweet bond, which gains its strength with time. It is very important for you and your life partner to give time and space to each other, so that to have a well maintained married life. Marriage is the bond, which needs a lot of care and time to come at a stage, where both, you and your life partner understand each other very well and have no scope for doubts and misunderstandings. There are fights and misunderstandings in every relation, but sometimes, small fights between the couple can add fun to the married life. It actually adds cherishable moments in your journey of married life.

It is also said, the more you fight with your life partner, you are bound to form stronger bond with him. So, there is no harm in having small tiffs with your partner, because in a way, it gives an opportunity to know his highs and lows. This also gives you a clarity on the relationship you share with your partner, and where are you lacking behind. It is very important to fill the gaps, between husband and wife, to give a smooth shape to their married life. In fact, if there are problems in your married life, then its better to talk about that and just way off the issues from your precious bond.

Having a small fight with your partner, and by not talking to him for one or two days, actually makes both of you realise the importance of each other. Getting apart for a small time period increases the urge of being together and reinforces all the feelings of love and care in both the bride and groom. So, next time, if you have a fight with your love, then first of all don’t let it drag for long, and make the best use of it and try and understand, where did you lack behind and what made you to have an argument with your life partner. Always try and learn from your mistakes and you must keep it in mind that you must not repeat those mistakes, which would annoy your life partner.

Changing trend for marriageable age

There are many stages in life, which every person, whether it’s you or me, is bound to go through and handle it in a way that it turns out to be the best of the experiences. One of the phases in life, which is sure to change the whole definition of our life is the marriage. Marriages in India have always been given the priority and the search for the right match for marriage, starts as soon as we turn 25 or 26. Marriage in our grandparent days, were supposed to happen as soon as the child turns adult or even less. Then came the age, where parents didn’t use to think about our marriage, till the time we turn 25-26., though the age variation use to differ for boys and girls. But now days, the trend seems to be taking a u- turn and an early age marriage can be seen again.

The parents now- a-days, feel that as soon as their children starts earning a handsome income, he should be handled with the responsibility of marriage. In fact, with the love marriages slowly getting accepted in India, boys and girls themselves can be seen very excited about their marriage and want to settle down with their love in the right possible duration. This is also because of the maturation level achieved by the children these days, at a comparatively early age. The social and the professional life, brings a change in our total lifestyle and leads to the practise of dependency on others.  Also, there is an urge for a life partner to share all the problems and happiness with, for which the most promising solution seems to be marriage.

There is no harm in early marriage, i.e. after we get settled with our professional lives, but we should always keep this in mind, that marriage is a life long decision and should always be taken very carefully and with all the plus and minuses considered.  

Marriage decision

Everybody, whether it’s you or me, have been fanaticising about our marriage from our childhood. It is the biggest and the most talked about matter in the Indian families. As soon as the girl or the boy in an Indian house, reaches the eligible age of marriage, all over in his family and among his family members a wave of excitement and inquisitiveness runs, as in when is the girl or the boy will get married. It is actually a very weird feeling, you don’t know, to be happy or sad. You are obviously happy, as a whole new phase of life is waiting for you to get started. But, at the same time, a fear runs through the mind, how would the life partner would be like and whether you would be able to adjust with hum or not.

There is someone special for each one of us and it is pure fate, when and how we get paired with them for the life time. On the contrary, you should not leave everything on fate, but should be extra cautious while choosing the bride or groom for yourself. It is the biggest decision of life, so should be taken very carefully and with a proper analysis of each and every factor involved. I know relations like marriage and love are based on emotions, but at some stages you actually need to imply your mind, so that you take a wise decision and do not end up ruining your life with the wrong person.

Therefore, one should never match the speed of shatabadi, while taking the decision of marriage and should always finalise the life partner, after doing a proper research and checking if he/ she suits and compliments your personality. Love obviously cannot be calculated in a calculator, but the marriage decision, has to be very wise, because it embraces the peace and happiness of your whole life.

The first gift…

Marriage is the sweetest gift, given by the god to two human beings for their life time. Every human being, whether it’s you or me, everyone is very excited about each and every thing related to marriage. It’s a function, which involves a number of people, whose happiness and joyous moments are related to the closeness in the relation, they share with the bride or the groom. There are lot of things, combining which forms the reasons due to which the bride and the groom can live a cherished and a smooth married life. The very first meeting of the bride and the groom, just after their marriage gets fixed is a very precious one. There are a number of questions, which both of them have in their minds which are directly or indirectly related to expectations.

The biggest curiosity, which keeps the mind of the bride and the groom busy, is the first gift; they would get from their fiancée. There is a lot of excitement and pleasure attached to the gift, the expectations and their fulfilment, which both of them uses to greet each other. Whether it is the bride or the groom, both goes through a lot of mind boggling sessions, which makes them, decide what to choose and what not as the gift. The gift makes them form the first impression on their fiancée, which he or she carries through out the life. Therefore, the selection of the gift has to be the best and needs to match the personality of the bride or the groom.

The gift should also be the mirror image of the feelings, which the person has towards his fiancée, which helps in forming the base of their relation. so, whatever you choose as the first gift, needs to be very special and unique, and should in every way suit the personality of your would- be life partner.

Marriage Anniversary

Marriage anniversary is the day, when the bride and groom get to rejoice their day of marriage and the moments spent on the auspicious day. Though, I am not married, but I can surely say by seeing my parents that marriage is the most precious bond, one gets to tie in his life and that also for the lifetime. The bond which is made by God, but it is purely in the hands of the bride and the groom, that how well they sustain and maintain the elements of love and understanding in their relationship. Love, trust and understanding are the basic elements, which are needed to be instilled by both the bride and groom, in their married life; to make it more strong and long lived.

Marriage anniversary is a day, which is the proof of the strength of their married life, because if and only if the bride and the groom have been able to build the bond of trust between each other then only, their relation can be long lived. The more time in terms of years you tend to spend with your life partner, the better bond is said to be developed between both of you. Have you ever wondered why couples celebrate their 25th marriage anniversary, that too at such a large scale? This is because of the fact that they are not only proud of their long lived relation, but also they are so happy that they want to share this happiness with everyone around. Also, couples like these have set examples for the new generation, for whom, marriage is no longer a serious relation. They have been beaten by the bug of divorce, which gives them an easy way out, if they are not happy or satisfied with their married life. So it totally depends on you and your life partner as in how much understanding you share with your life partner, which would give fuel to your marriage journey and you will be able to celebrate more number of marriage anniversaries with your life partner!!