Love Marriage - An Easy Way to a Happy Married Life

Love Marriage

Marriage is the most important decision we are made to take in life. There are hundreds of things we need to consider, before finalizing the decision and see that every things works out. Though, the mind set of people in India is changing and they are accepting love marriages, but still there are a large number of families who are against love marriage. In such cases, the couple need to make hard efforts to convince their parents and to make them approve the marriage. The parents should understand that ultimately, the couple has to spend their life together; they need to be friends with each other. This brings an ease in their married life and they can spend their future comfortably together.

Marrying the person you know well makes it easy for you to settle in future. Achieving the comfort level in a relationship takes a lot of time, which is already there in case of love marriages. The best part in a love marriage is that you are already friends with him/ her but often parents do not agree to the match their children choose for themselves.

Therefore, the most important step is to convince your parents about the marriage. For accomplishing this step, you need to be very sure about what you are doing. When you are confirm about your decision, and then only you can convince others about it. In case, you wish to get married to the boy or girl from another caste or religion, be sure that you both will be able to work it out well post marriage. Though, younger generations are more open to the idea, those following traditions tend to be a little sceptical about it. Explain your dear ones that it is the individual who matters and not the religion or caste.

Marriages : Made in Heaven, Celebrated on Earth

Everyone believes in existence of a superpower above us and some name it as GOD. God has made a soul mate for everybody and brings them together through the eternal bond called marriage. These marriages are celebrated luxuriously and elaborately on earth, especially in Indian customs.

Marriages lead to physical, mental and spiritual unison of a couple. A successful marriage demands love, understanding, mutual respect, trust, commitment and togetherness of a couple. Marriage is considered to be a very sacred relation that unites two individuals from different walks of life. The relationship of a man and woman is incomparable to any other relation that they share throughout their lives.

Marriages are, definitely, made in heaven else how do you think that two people with different upbringing and different opinions are bonded together. What is the force that unites only those two people as a couple and not with some one else. Most of us believe that it is destiny that makes you meet all the people in your life and so is the same with life partners. Destiny is written by God or at least directed by that superpower that operates above all of us.

He decides in advance whom to bring together to be tied in the bond of lifelong commitment and unison. And then, this matrimony is arranged and solemnized with pomp and grandeur to let the world meet your better half. In fact, this is why, marriages in India are performed royally and people spend most of their savings on the wedding. Such grand weddings are dream-like where the bride and the groom are the only center of attraction for all the guests and relatives.

Every girl, even today after such modernization, dreams of getting married in a fairy tale kind of a way. And then, why not, this is the most memorable moment in a person’s life.

Giving space to your life partner

The tag- handle with care does not only go with the delicate items made of glass and crystal, but these days, the tag is most suitable with the relationship shared between husband and wife. I hope that you will agree with me on the fact that relationship shared between married couples, though is very strong in terms of understanding and bonding, but at the same time is very subtle and emotional. You have to be very careful with the measures to make your relationship long-lasting and trustworthy. Marriage is the bond, which has dual nature, at times it is the strongest and sometimes it seems to be the weakest.

Well its weak or strong depends on the couple itself, they need to make sure that the strength of their relation is stable enough, that no one is able to create misunderstandings in their relationship. The steps have to be taken by both the husband and wife to ensure the longitivity of their love and bond shared. These days, being independent and self driven are the motives of every individual, whether its bride or groom, everyone wants to maintain their individuality and seek personal comfort and space in their lives. A common phenomenon, which is seen these days, is that either the husband or the wife has this habit of digging in too much in the lives of their partners. They need to understand the significance of the element of individuality and space required in each others life.

Peeping into the lives of others, after an extent becomes a headache for the person. Its fine to believe that they are your life partner and you have the right to know all the important happenings in their life, but this does not allows you to sit on his head every second. Everybody needs his space to live, and this is your duty as his partner to provide him that space and let him live the way he wants. This ways, the relation goes very smooth and a very healthy understanding and bonding is seen in such couples, who possess this attitude of taking things coolly and allowing your partner his space, where he can live his own life according to his wishes, obviously remaining in his limits.

Changing your name after marriage

Marriage is the most important decision of our life. It is the decision, which not only changes the whole lifestyle of a human being, but it also leads to the change in identity of a bride. There are hardly any changes, which a guy goes through after marriage, other than the responsibilities, he takes of his family. But, if we talk about the bride, there are loads of changes and modifications that a bride has to adopt to lead a hassle-free life. The first and the foremost step towards change is shifting of her home, from her maternal house to the house of her in- laws, which is still ok, but the next thing, which any girl is most resistant to is the change of her name.

The change in the surname, is a common practise, which has been followed since ages in Indian marriages, but with the changing times and the girls becoming more independent and adopting modern ways to lead her life, she is not ready to accept the change in her name. According to the girls these days, how can they change their identity or the name, with which they have lived for so many years? And plus adding the whole name of your husband to yours becomes too lengthy and difficult to pronounce. In fact some girls these days, are too conscious that they just don’t change their name at all, not even their surname. Some brides add their in- law’s surname at the end of their original full name to mark their alliance with the new family, which I think is the best way.

These things are very debatable and have even lead to some family disputes, but at the end it depends on the mutual understanding of the bride and the groom. The mental set- up and the thinking of the groom and his family plays a very important role here, because if the family is very strict and blindly follows all the old rituals and customs, then the bride in any case would have to bear the full additional changes to her name, but if the groom or the family understand her emotions, then they would surely support in keeping her original name as it is with an add-on of their family name, forever. And if you are among few of the latter cases, then I must say, are the blessed one, because in such a modern society even, you would find very less families, who understands the attachment and the emotions that a bride has for her name and family.

Wedding card - the official announcement of the marriage

Marriages are definitely the most exciting moment in our life, its not only you who is happy for the marriage ceremony, but the family as a whole takes part in its preparations and rituals. The first and the most important step towards the announcement of the wedding alliance is the wedding card. The invitation card for the marriage is what, which declares the togetherness of the couple, with their names written on the card, next to each others. I hope you will agree with me on the fact that, a prospective groom or bride feels very different and relaxed after seeing their names written together on the wedding card. The announcement makes their relation official and from then the countdown for the wedding starts.

In most of the Indian weddings, as far as I have observed, the first wedding card is presented in front of the lord or the religious god of the family, to seek his blessings for a successful wedding life. Invitation of the wedding needs to be sent to all the family members and friends. With our couples adopting the modern methods, invitation cards, these days, are also sent via emails. In most of the cases, these wedding cards are the scanned copies of the original invitation, but many perspective brides and grooms are also seen designing cards for their marriage themselves.

Designing your wedding card, has its own charm, all the dreams and designs you have always thought of, you can implement that to your card. A lot of innovation and creativity is required for the same, and the card should be a result of the prior discussion with your partner. Disseminating self- made cards among your friends makes you feel proud and contended at the same time. In fact, some couples, even design the print format of the wedding card, which goes to all the relatives and friends. This not only saves the money of the designing part, but also the happiness and the jolliness felt inside is something which cannot be expressed in words.