Peeping into the mind of the bride

No doubt, wedding day is the most amazing day in the lives of both bride and groom. But, for bride, it is the day filled with loads of emotions. I think a bride, goes through tons of emotions throughout the day, the major ones being the sadness and happiness. Tears seem to be like the best friends, they accompany not only bride, but even her family members all day during the marriage ceremonies. Even the rare moments, called the tears of happiness can also be witnessed during this occasion. Shades of the happy, sad, nervous, anxious, chilled, cool, surprise moments are experienced by the bride in a single day.

One of my friend, who got married recently, told me, that the day of the marriage seems like a long day, its not at all like a usual day, it seems like you live so many days and relations in that one day. Actually you get to know the meaning and sanctity of all relations on the day of your marriage. Actually I too believe that, the moments, when the maternal uncle, mother, father, grandparents, perform different rituals with the bride are speechless, they are times, which are priceless and a girl only, when in the form of a bride, gets to earn and practice those moments.

Each mantra or spiritual rhyme recited by the priest, takes the bride away from her parents and maternal family, leading her life towards new beginning with new family and new relatives. The most emotional and touching moment in the marriage, is when the girl leaves her maternal house and heads towards her new house with her husband. Though, the happiness and the majesticity of the feeling of a new life, full of happiness and joys is beyond description, but anyhow the feeling of leaving your family behind, and that this house will no longer be yours, certainly overpowers the happiness and makes you as a bride so feeble and full of tears. All these emotions are very personal and close to the heart of the bride, so the groom should always try and understand these emotions which a bride goes through at the time of their wedding, and should always support her, in starting a new life, filled with all the smiles and happy moments.

Giving space to your life partner

The tag- handle with care does not only go with the delicate items made of glass and crystal, but these days, the tag is most suitable with the relationship shared between husband and wife. I hope that you will agree with me on the fact that relationship shared between married couples, though is very strong in terms of understanding and bonding, but at the same time is very subtle and emotional. You have to be very careful with the measures to make your relationship long-lasting and trustworthy. Marriage is the bond, which has dual nature, at times it is the strongest and sometimes it seems to be the weakest.

Well its weak or strong depends on the couple itself, they need to make sure that the strength of their relation is stable enough, that no one is able to create misunderstandings in their relationship. The steps have to be taken by both the husband and wife to ensure the longitivity of their love and bond shared. These days, being independent and self driven are the motives of every individual, whether its bride or groom, everyone wants to maintain their individuality and seek personal comfort and space in their lives. A common phenomenon, which is seen these days, is that either the husband or the wife has this habit of digging in too much in the lives of their partners. They need to understand the significance of the element of individuality and space required in each others life.

Peeping into the lives of others, after an extent becomes a headache for the person. Its fine to believe that they are your life partner and you have the right to know all the important happenings in their life, but this does not allows you to sit on his head every second. Everybody needs his space to live, and this is your duty as his partner to provide him that space and let him live the way he wants. This ways, the relation goes very smooth and a very healthy understanding and bonding is seen in such couples, who possess this attitude of taking things coolly and allowing your partner his space, where he can live his own life according to his wishes, obviously remaining in his limits.

Marriage makes a person responsible

There are various stages to which one gets encountered during his life time. Other than the phases of being a child, teen, young, mid-age and then old, we classify our life, generally on the basis of life before marriage and after marriage. A person is said to undergo various changes during these two phases. A lot of difference in terms of lifestyle and change in habits is observed with the transformation of a person from the tag of unmarried to married. Not only the status of a person changes from single to married, but a sense of responsibility is also felt by the married couple.

We generally say the man or the guy has to be responsible because he has to withhold the responsibility of a family; he is the one who needs to take care of the financial as well as the emotional status of the family members. But if we see today’s scenario, its not only the husband who is entitled with the family responsibilities, equal contribution is made by the wife also, whether its in term of finances or other home responsibilities. Both of them are aware of the fact that, a balance needs to be maintained between the demands and their accomplishments.

In the young stage, we are never made to work or felt accountable for the factors which help in running a smooth and healthy family life. But as we grow, we ought to realise our functions and role in the family. But marriage is a stage, when one gets to realise and implement his assigned roles and responsibilities. Wed- lock is the ultimate relation shared in a man’s life, where he gets to learn various new things as well as makes his partner mould according to his requirements, it a relation of give and take, the basis of which is love and understanding. It actually makes a person more thoughtful, strong, understanding, patient, co-operative, and much more to keep the wheels of the family rolling in the right direction.