Marriages are the most celebrated occasions in the Indian customs. And it is the most painful when this sacred relationship breaks. But, there are some many interesting observations made in a research on the best and worst things in an individual’s life - Marriage and Divorce. They are:
-At least 70% of those involved in a divorce have a lover at the time of their breakups but hardly 15% of them get married to that lover.
-The possibility of break ups in second marriages is higher than in first marriage. As statistics show- 45% of first marriages, 60% of second marriages and 75% of third marriages break up.
The research also emphasizes on the fact that one must definitely grow in a marriage for it to be successful. If it is mere longevity that one celebrates, it is a dreadful disaster. It also questioned if couples really take their wedding vows seriously as when you experience love, it is valid forever.
The research also explained how people who tend to fall in and out of love feel disappointment and disillusionment by giving either of the three responses- pessimism, romanticism and realism.
-Pessimists feel that love is an illusion and protect themselves against further disappointment by avoiding any kind of intimacy.
-Romantics make it a habit to fall in love but run away when the going gets tough.
-Realists decide to stay away from the excesses of romance and settle down for practical and mature relationships.
As authored by world mythologist, Joseph Campbell, people don’t realize and understand what exactly marriage is. People fall in love and get married thinking it will make their love affair eternal without realizing what marriage brings with it- Transformation. One has to yield, give and submit to the partner not just dictate and take from him/ her.
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