Marriage : A Love or Business Affair?

Whenever a union of the children of top-notch business families is announced, the question of it being a business transaction or a truly cupid stuck affair is raised. There have been a few matrimonial alliances declared recently between the sons and daughters of successful businessmen.

Some of the alliances that make one think about the marital unions of the children of industrialists as a business affair more than love include:

-The latest entry in the league of business weddings is the matrimony of Infosys founder Narayana Murthy's son Rohan Murthy with Lakshmi Venu, daughter of TVS Motor chairman and managing director Venu Srinivasan.

-Another one barely a year ago is the marriage of Kishore Biyani's daughter Ashni Biyani to Vedanta Group head Anil Agarwal's nephew Viraj Didwania last December.

-Sajjan Jindal's daughter Tanvi Jindal and Radhakrishna Group MD Raju Shete's son Krishna Shete got married recently, adding to the list of matrimonies of the off-springs of leading businessmen.

Even though it is unfair to label these marriages as pure business transactions, the element of the same can not be denied. The celebration of the weddings of three such couples in last nine months is what triggered the question of business marriages as genuine love affairs or pure profit deals. The kids meet up and get to know each other during their courtship periods finally tying the knot much to the happiness of their businessmen fathers. Some of the couples continue to pursue participation in their own respective families while others begin working together.

The amalgamation of the businesses in form of the weddings of younger generation has been common from ages but is now been given an entirely different look of a love affair. But, one continues to doubt if the children of these leaders are a business booster to create new partnerships or really in love.

Lovable fights can add fun to your married life

Marriage is a very sweet bond, which gains its strength with time. It is very important for you and your life partner to give time and space to each other, so that to have a well maintained married life. Marriage is the bond, which needs a lot of care and time to come at a stage, where both, you and your life partner understand each other very well and have no scope for doubts and misunderstandings. There are fights and misunderstandings in every relation, but sometimes, small fights between the couple can add fun to the married life. It actually adds cherishable moments in your journey of married life.

It is also said, the more you fight with your life partner, you are bound to form stronger bond with him. So, there is no harm in having small tiffs with your partner, because in a way, it gives an opportunity to know his highs and lows. This also gives you a clarity on the relationship you share with your partner, and where are you lacking behind. It is very important to fill the gaps, between husband and wife, to give a smooth shape to their married life. In fact, if there are problems in your married life, then its better to talk about that and just way off the issues from your precious bond.

Having a small fight with your partner, and by not talking to him for one or two days, actually makes both of you realise the importance of each other. Getting apart for a small time period increases the urge of being together and reinforces all the feelings of love and care in both the bride and groom. So, next time, if you have a fight with your love, then first of all don’t let it drag for long, and make the best use of it and try and understand, where did you lack behind and what made you to have an argument with your life partner. Always try and learn from your mistakes and you must keep it in mind that you must not repeat those mistakes, which would annoy your life partner.

Intimacy shared in the courtship period makes a marriage bond strong

Marriages in India, from ages has been following the trends of arrange marriages, due to which marriage in a way is also called as one of the biggest risks, which we take in our lives. Though the concept of love marriages has brought a lot much change in way marriages are looked at in India. Today, we as youngsters are more free and optimistic in choosing our life partner, compared to our parents or grandparents. Our life moves the way want and we have the liberty to choose and fall in love with the person, of our preference. In case of love marriage, it’s very easy for the bride and groom to adjust after marriage, because they know each other very well and have already formed the bond of understanding. 

But in case of arranged marriages, it’s only the courtship period, which the bride and groom get to know each other before marriage. Though, after marriage, there is whole life to understand each other, but the excitement and the thrill, which prevails before marriage, is inexplicable. Its beyond explanation, I have experienced this, as one of my friends is going through this stage and he is always on the 9th cloud. His happiness and enthusiasm can be seen in his eyes and the way he talks. He is having an arranged marriage, but the period he is going through, his courtship period, is helping him getting close to his fiancée and now it seems no less than a love marriage. 

It is so strange, that in such a short period of time, they have got so close. I think, such is the power of love, which is experienced in the courtship period by the couple tying the knot of arranged marriage. The intimacy developed at the courtship period, gives birth to the feeling of love, which the bride and groom cherishes all long in their married life. 

Changing trend for marriageable age

There are many stages in life, which every person, whether it’s you or me, is bound to go through and handle it in a way that it turns out to be the best of the experiences. One of the phases in life, which is sure to change the whole definition of our life is the marriage. Marriages in India have always been given the priority and the search for the right match for marriage, starts as soon as we turn 25 or 26. Marriage in our grandparent days, were supposed to happen as soon as the child turns adult or even less. Then came the age, where parents didn’t use to think about our marriage, till the time we turn 25-26., though the age variation use to differ for boys and girls. But now days, the trend seems to be taking a u- turn and an early age marriage can be seen again.

The parents now- a-days, feel that as soon as their children starts earning a handsome income, he should be handled with the responsibility of marriage. In fact, with the love marriages slowly getting accepted in India, boys and girls themselves can be seen very excited about their marriage and want to settle down with their love in the right possible duration. This is also because of the maturation level achieved by the children these days, at a comparatively early age. The social and the professional life, brings a change in our total lifestyle and leads to the practise of dependency on others.  Also, there is an urge for a life partner to share all the problems and happiness with, for which the most promising solution seems to be marriage.

There is no harm in early marriage, i.e. after we get settled with our professional lives, but we should always keep this in mind, that marriage is a life long decision and should always be taken very carefully and with all the plus and minuses considered.  

Marriage decision

Everybody, whether it’s you or me, have been fanaticising about our marriage from our childhood. It is the biggest and the most talked about matter in the Indian families. As soon as the girl or the boy in an Indian house, reaches the eligible age of marriage, all over in his family and among his family members a wave of excitement and inquisitiveness runs, as in when is the girl or the boy will get married. It is actually a very weird feeling, you don’t know, to be happy or sad. You are obviously happy, as a whole new phase of life is waiting for you to get started. But, at the same time, a fear runs through the mind, how would the life partner would be like and whether you would be able to adjust with hum or not.

There is someone special for each one of us and it is pure fate, when and how we get paired with them for the life time. On the contrary, you should not leave everything on fate, but should be extra cautious while choosing the bride or groom for yourself. It is the biggest decision of life, so should be taken very carefully and with a proper analysis of each and every factor involved. I know relations like marriage and love are based on emotions, but at some stages you actually need to imply your mind, so that you take a wise decision and do not end up ruining your life with the wrong person.

Therefore, one should never match the speed of shatabadi, while taking the decision of marriage and should always finalise the life partner, after doing a proper research and checking if he/ she suits and compliments your personality. Love obviously cannot be calculated in a calculator, but the marriage decision, has to be very wise, because it embraces the peace and happiness of your whole life.