Presence of celebrities in marriages

A marriage in India corresponds to fun, enjoyment, masti, pop and gaiety. We are always in wait of our cousins to get married, so that we can have fun- filled time there. All the peppiness and friendliness experienced in the marriage of one our close relatives cannot actually match any of the functions attended in life. The chores and the naughty things at the relative’s weddings form great memories and are unforgettable. You generally carry and rejoice these memories for life long. Marriage in itself is a huge event and just imagine how special it would become if some celebrity joins the wedding ceremony.

Now- a- days presence of celebrities in the wedding ceremonies is a common practise, but for that you need to shed a huge amount from your pocket. The presence of celebrities in a wedding makes it more entertaining and more talked about. These celebrities vary according to the standards of the family members of the bride and the groom. It can vary from a laughter champion to a film actor. The contacts of the family members, with any of the people from the film industry also turn out to be productive at the time of marriage, with their glimpse or presence at the marriage function. Just one glance of the film stars, or just one photographs of their with the Indian marrying couple makes the moment more memorable and cherished for long.

It is actually one of those lavishes, which can only be bared by the brats of top nosh people of the society. It is kinds of that expenditure, which can only be spend by those who have that extra money to spend. This is also in a way to show the standards and the capabilities of the family by having an extravagant wedding affair. Also in India, the film stars are actually worshiped as god, so their presence in a wedding ceremony adds a lot the importance of marriage from just being an event. I, personally have never got the chance of witnessing such marriages, but surely would want to, atleast for once and add those moments in the memories of my life time.

Institution of Marriage is Demolishing in India

Indian matrimony has always been associated with words like eternity, lifelong, everlasting and forever. It is the most beautiful relation that completes a man and a woman as they spend all their lives together with each other. Though it is not so easy to establish a lasting relation, Indian couples have been hugely successful in doing so. The fact not only fascinates everyone but also encourages them to do the same.

As rosy it may sound, it has changed in today’s times being no more an incorrigible relation. It can now be easily influenced by even the most insignificant and trivial of the issues like incompatibility, lack of cleanliness, bringing work home, lack of time, watching television, communication gap and so on. With women becoming fully aware of their rights and demanding equality, marital tensions are mounting up as males are not able to handle this empowerment. Adultery, extra-marital affairs, ego clashes, suspicion and lack of faith are constantly becoming reasons for the increasing number of marriage break ups.

It is interesting to note as figures reveal that chances of break up in love marriages are higher than in arranged marriages. The records state that at least 50% love marriages and 30% arranged marriages in India end up in divorce. Breaking marriages is not unheard of anymore as rising numbers of couples are opting for separation these days. Out of 1,36,000 marriages solemnized in Delhi in 2009, 10,000 ended up in divorce courts. Like ‘every coin has two sides’, it is good that the couple does not have to suffer with each other forever if not compatible but such increasing figures are sure creating tensions and apprehensions.

The couples are forced to think twice before tying the knot as the sacred institution of marriage is seen crumbling.

Same Gotra Marriage : The Most Controversial Argument

Marriage in India is considered to be the most beautiful relationship one can ever have and this is why it is an elaborate affair that seeks blessings of hundreds of Gods and relatives. But, unfortunately this importance and sanctity attached to marriages has begun to come across as a false show. Every other day, one finds something or the other coming up against marriages- be it inter-caste or inter-religion or same sex or same gotra marriage.

After hundreds of ‘honor killings’ against inter-caste marriages, it is now the turn of same gotra marriages. Khaps and Panchayats of the villages are dead opposed to the concept of marrying within the gotra whereas urban India remains oblivion to the whole idea of the controversy. They seek to ban same gotra marriage and are demanding amendments in Hindu Marriage Act as they firmly believe that their ruling cannot be fettered even by the Constitution of India.

All the hype and controversy surrounding same gotra marriage is much ado about nothing. The recent spate of violence and khap-ordained ‘honour killings’ have become a cause for dismay in the minds of right thinking citizens. We dream of a society free of divisions of caste and creed but are constantly grappling with the might and power of the feudal mindset that perpetrates caste. Khaps have threatened to MPs and MLAs to take a decision and ban sagotra marriages- marriage between people belonging to same gotra.

At least I am not able to understand what the big deal about ‘gotra’ is. I am sure like me, many of us have no idea what gotra means and which one do we belong to. Loosely called sub-caste, my mind questions, wasn’t division on the basis of castes enough that this new element of sub-caste has been triggered to slice us further.

Marriages becoming more of a compromise

Marriage as a bond has always been cherished by couples. Married couples have always taken marriage as a life long bond and have from ages has been considered as a relation, which is meant to be forever. The forever bond of marriage has its longitivity due to the factors of love, care, trust and understanding. These elements are must to be instilled in the married life to sustain the bond of marriage and to make sure that the husband and wife lead a smooth and a happy married life. But, with the changing times and changing preferences of the people, marriage is no longer based on the factors of trust and care.

The emotions has no role to play in today’s world, what every body seeks for, at the end of the day is profit and growth. Love, sentiments, faith, all seems to be fading away with the people making more use of their brain rather than their hearts. And I would not be wrong in saying that marriages have become more of like a compromise than a bond based on mutual understanding. The couples should understand that if they feed their married life with the four basic elements of marriage, i.e. love, understanding, care and trust, then their married life would be more beautiful and worth living.

The couple needs to make sure that they share a good bonding between each other. The bond shared between them should not only be a show-off or an official tag to show the world that they are together, but their togetherness should actually because they need each other. Their married life should be a reflection of each others care and trust. Times are changing, our mindsets are changing but we should not allow the negative factors affect our mind and change the meaning of marriage and love in our lives.

Differences between parents can lead to disturbance in children’s life

Marriages these days have lost their meaning. No longer we get to see, marriage being practised as a life long bond, or as a relation where two souls become one after tying the knot of marriage. As discussed in my earlier blog marriage has more of become like a compromise, where the couple is nowhere in a situation to actually call their relation as a bond of love. An easy way to escape out of the marriage responsibilities and to disburden the pressure of marriage fights is divorce. Couples now a days, take marriage very lamely and even in case of small misunderstandings and fights opt for the route of divorce.

But have you ever thought how bad it can affect the future of your child, after you two get divorced. If I would have to some up the future of your child, then in mere terms, I would say that his life would be ruined. In fact, I am using a very small term, he will have no life, his personal, professional, all sectors of life will go hay way. The life is in no way would be a simple life, it would be life full of shackles, where the child would always be filled with questions in his mind, with restricted space to live and breathe freely.

Taking a chance in the form of giving birth to a baby, to give a new beginning to the married life or to start afresh is a very risky thing. This is very good, if the relation works out but a damn tough task to manage if the bride and the groom even after having a baby are not able to bring things on the right track. If the bride and the groom divorces each other, then the child becomes homeless and for the whole life swings in between the misunderstandings of his parents. Therefore, the couple should try and make things perfect, sorting out the differences between them, thereby paving a bright future for their child.