Differences between parents can lead to disturbance in children’s life

Marriages these days have lost their meaning. No longer we get to see, marriage being practised as a life long bond, or as a relation where two souls become one after tying the knot of marriage. As discussed in my earlier blog marriage has more of become like a compromise, where the couple is nowhere in a situation to actually call their relation as a bond of love. An easy way to escape out of the marriage responsibilities and to disburden the pressure of marriage fights is divorce. Couples now a days, take marriage very lamely and even in case of small misunderstandings and fights opt for the route of divorce.

But have you ever thought how bad it can affect the future of your child, after you two get divorced. If I would have to some up the future of your child, then in mere terms, I would say that his life would be ruined. In fact, I am using a very small term, he will have no life, his personal, professional, all sectors of life will go hay way. The life is in no way would be a simple life, it would be life full of shackles, where the child would always be filled with questions in his mind, with restricted space to live and breathe freely.

Taking a chance in the form of giving birth to a baby, to give a new beginning to the married life or to start afresh is a very risky thing. This is very good, if the relation works out but a damn tough task to manage if the bride and the groom even after having a baby are not able to bring things on the right track. If the bride and the groom divorces each other, then the child becomes homeless and for the whole life swings in between the misunderstandings of his parents. Therefore, the couple should try and make things perfect, sorting out the differences between them, thereby paving a bright future for their child.

Riveting Observations on Marriage & Divorce

Marriages are the most celebrated occasions in the Indian customs. And it is the most painful when this sacred relationship breaks. But, there are some many interesting observations made in a research on the best and worst things in an individual’s life - Marriage and Divorce. They are:

-At least 70% of those involved in a divorce have a lover at the time of their breakups but hardly 15% of them get married to that lover.

-The possibility of break ups in second marriages is higher than in first marriage. As statistics show- 45% of first marriages, 60% of second marriages and 75% of third marriages break up.

The research also emphasizes on the fact that one must definitely grow in a marriage for it to be successful. If it is mere longevity that one celebrates, it is a dreadful disaster. It also questioned if couples really take their wedding vows seriously as when you experience love, it is valid forever.

The research also explained how people who tend to fall in and out of love feel disappointment and disillusionment by giving either of the three responses- pessimism, romanticism and realism.

-Pessimists feel that love is an illusion and protect themselves against further disappointment by avoiding any kind of intimacy.

-Romantics make it a habit to fall in love but run away when the going gets tough.

-Realists decide to stay away from the excesses of romance and settle down for practical and mature relationships.

As authored by world mythologist, Joseph Campbell, people don’t realize and understand what exactly marriage is. People fall in love and get married thinking it will make their love affair eternal without realizing what marriage brings with it- Transformation. One has to yield, give and submit to the partner not just dictate and take from him/ her.