Journey of Indian Marriages

Indian marriages have traversed a long way from the days when couples hardly met each other before the wedding to the times of today when they make an informed, well though out decision on marriage after several meetings. Marriages used to last for a lifetime earlier but now they break up at any instant due to trivial issues.

Dr. Vijay Nagaswami in his recent book titled ‘The Fifty-50 Marriage: Return to Intimacy’ talks about issues revolving around marriage and their solutions. The idea of marriage has changed tremendously over generations- from being a spiritualistic institution to a pragmatic one. This is commendable as it moves on from the level of being a ritualistic exercise to the one where the couple is involved and ‘owns’ it. This sacred relationship has always been on a backburner until few decades ago where husbands and wives viewed the relation as a role play. It is much more than role playing in modern times with couples getting engaged as life partners and human beings.

The kind of love in the course of relation may change but the magic never dies down, be it an arranged or love marriage. Dr. Nagaswami says that romantic love in the initial years of a marriage gets replaced by either intimate love or nurturing love. As couples are much more demanding-both men and women- they make efforts to accentuate the quality of their lives and relations. It has become a novel idea for them since what they had seen in their parents’ marriage as a kid has undergone a complete transformation. The roles of women as home makers and men as bread winners do not exist anymore at least in urban India.

A married couple today is like partnering of two individuals embarking on the journey called life!

Misunderstandings can lead to blunders

Relations are very precious; they need special care and attention. You need to be extra careful, when it comes to taking care of a relation. Whether it’s any relation, friendship, siblings, or marriage, every relation needs a proper nourishment to keep growing. There are many things which are needed to be kept in mind, to make a relation strong and reach a stage, where nothing can even touch the integrity of the bond. Especially, in case of the marriages, the couple needs to give extra attention to keep the relation going. The bond of marriage is very delicate; therefore support from both the sides, i.e. bride and groom both should work as the two ends of that wire, which if broken, from any either ends, will lead to stoppage of the flow of current, corresponding to the breakage of the relation.

There are tiffs, misunderstandings and fights, in every relation, but you need to make your relation, reach a stage, where no such things can act as a hurdle in the growth of your relation. The bride and groom are entirely responsible for the bonding they share. If you have great understanding with your partner, then no outsider can have the courage to spoil your relation. It’s only who are accountable for any problems in your relation and on the other hand also, it can be you only, because of whom you and your life partner will lead a happy married life.

According to me problems, whether, big or small, must be discussed with your partner. What’s the use of lingering it on, and on the other side keeping your partner guessing things? This increases the irritation level. Also, marriage is a very pure bond, so everything should be clear and transparent between the husband and wife. This not only adds to the life of your marriage bond, but also makes your life synchronize to happiness and satisfaction