Joint Families and Marriages in India

Times have changed and so have our thinking! No more people prefer marrying their children in join families. To be honest, we think joint families invite more problems and leads to family issues. Apart from our life partner, his family and relatives also play an important role in shaping a healthy environment for marriage. Most of the married women today are independent and fall under the category of working women. This new work culture demands personal space at home for women. But, our Indian families are still moving on those pre- conceived notion that women in which ever situation are made to serve their family. No doubt, being a daughter-in-law of a family you are responsible for the well being of your family. But at the same time, family is also supposed to respect your privacy and give space to your personal life.

There are a number of situations which demand consistency in terms of support and care to the family. But a person can’t keep on showering these things, without getting any returns. Same is the case with the bride of the family, who expects same amount of love and care from her family. Joint families are known to be formed with an atmosphere full of household chores. But, in case where the bride is working it gets difficult for her to manage home and work. Especially, when the parents in-law, expects the bride to invest all her free time in the family and take care of their smallest needs.

The concept of a joint family has been successful in the past, with people more concerned about each others well being. Same can be successful today also, if we start valuing each others priorities and try and understand them. Therefore, these preconceived notions about joint families need to be changed, only then there would be happier and healthy marriage in India.

Steps to Make your Arranged Marriage Successful

Arranged Marriages

Arranged marriages, is the primary concept about marriage, with which we Indians are nurtured. As children, we are always brought up with the belief that when we grow older, our parents search a life partner for us, with whom we are supposed to marry. The concept of arranged marriage is not at all wrong; it is a practice, which has been followed by Indians, since ages. Also, marriages groomed with Indian traditions are the most successful and the long lived matrimony bonds. But, now the ideologies are changing with the concept of love marriage is coming into practice. But, still a significant number of marriages bonds tied in India are arranged and a bride and groom need to be well prepared to accept a stranger as his life partner.

Efforts need to be made from both the sides, to make the marriage bond a success. Following are the steps, which you must follow, to keep your arranged marriage on a healthy and a happy track:

• First of all, every relationship demands comfort. You need to bring your relationship to a level which is friendly and wherein you can share every little thing with your partner. This comfort brings you closer to your spouse.
• When you get to know a person, then you start taking care of his small- small things, which develops the emotions of care and understanding in the relation. Caring for the smallest of the needs of your life partner, adds strength to your wedding bond.
• Care and understanding gives birth to the feeling of love in each others heart, which eventually gets stronger and results in intimacy in the relationship.
• In an arranged marriage, you should give time and space to your spouse, to understand each other and should not get hyper over small issues.
• You should remember, talking helps, therefore, if you have some doubts or problems, then please clear with your life partner, then and there.

All these steps may vary according to situations and how well you know the person. But the crux of every relation lies in the understanding you share and your willingness to groom the bond with love.