The weddings in Tamil are very simple affair, unlike those followed in the northern India. There are no show offs and the community believes in traditional rituals which are religiously followed during the weddings. The rituals and customs followed in a traditional Tamil Brahmin wedding different as compared to other communities.
I attended a Tamil wedding of one of my very good friends. The bride was Tamilian and the groom belonged to the Punjabi community. The rituals followed at the wedding involved the rituals from both the bride and the groom. Earlier, there was lots of confusion regarding the customs, but later on everything went very smoothly and followed the Tamil Matrimony rituals.. The groom’s family behaved very elegantly and allowed the bride’s family to follow their rituals and created a peaceful atmosphere.
Since we all know that Punjabi cuisine includes a number of lip-smacking and sumptuous non vegetarian delight, but taking care of the bride’s family’s religious sentiments, they compromised over the food. Being the Tamil Brahmin family, the bride’s side was purely vegetarian and the food served to us was vegetarian and included south Indian food mainly. However, to my surprise, I also saw stalls of north Indian food, which served paneer tikka and other north Indian food, but everything was purely vegetarian.
The bride was wearing an off white sari with gold border, while the groom wore typical Punjabi Paithani suit. The combination of the dresses of the bride and groom was extremely contrasting, but it represented both the cultures very beautifully. Even the groom’s family members wore very flashy and gorgeous dresses, for which Punjabi are famous. The bride’s family wore Kanchipuram and other south silk saris, while the male members were dressed in Dhoti and angavastram. Overall, it was fun to attend an inter-caste wedding, where we got glimpses of both Tamil and Punjabi Matrimony
Author: Rashmi Karan
